Being stalked can be a traumatic experience, as short-term or long-term stalking on a daily, weekly or monthly basis challenges your sense of security. Your right to a free life is threatened, and in the worst cases, you may isolate yourself completely to get away from your stalker. At Ellestedet, we specialize in tackling all types of violenceand stalking is no exception. We are ready to help you move forward with the right advice. If you want to read more about stalking, you can do so by following this link. Here we explain more about what stalking is and give you advice on what to do if you are being stalked or suspect that you are being stalked.
In this article, we want to focus on how to move on after a stalking experience. This traumatic experience should not be allowed to control or destroy your life, and we want to help you move on with the right advice. Whether you need advice or shelter for a period of time, we are here to help you and your children.
The first thing you need to do is acknowledge that you have been stalked. Only then can you begin to work through the aftermath of the stalking and regain a meaningful life. Often you will be in a state of shock, and the emotions that come with it can, in the worst cases, change you, your emotional life and your ability to maintain a normal everyday life.
If you've been a victim of stalking for a short or long period of time, it's natural to experience a number of symptoms of trauma. Your body and mind have been on high alert and you may experience the following symptoms:
If you experience one or more of the above symptoms, you may feel completely different. For example, it may seem very unnatural and overwhelming that you suddenly can't sleep at night or suddenly feel unsafe in certain settings. It may surprise you that you suddenly find it hard to trust people's intentions, and you may isolate yourself in guilt and shame if you think there's something wrong with you - there isn't! And the best thing you can do for yourself is to try to maintain a normal everyday life. That's easier said than done, so we'd like to give you four concrete tips to get your life back. Symptoms only get worse when you accept them as part of your everyday life.
You can't control your thoughts or feelings, but you can decide how you want to respond to them when they occur. You are the master of your own life, and it is important that you maintain a normal everyday life and also receive professional help so that you can get the right tools to move on after stalking. Below are four concrete tips on how to maintain a normal everyday life.
If you have been exposed to a transgressive experience, we encourage you to seek professional help to process the experience in a safe environment. A professional can give you concrete tools that fit your situation.
First and foremost, it's great to have a social activity to look forward to. You deserve to look forward to an activity that can bring a little energy and a smile to your everyday life. For example, a regular walk with a good friend or family member. Think about agreeing on a set time and day of the week so that you can have this as a fixed point of reference and don't have to spend energy on rescheduling.
Our body is our shield, so it's a good idea to make sure you eat a variety of meals that especially strengthen your nervous system and immune system. If you have been stalked, your physical health may be challenged as it has been on high alert for too long and has used its resources to protect you.
Alcohol blurs our senses and enables us to forget time and place. And it can be very tempting to turn to alcohol if you want to escape from a reality that has been characterized by the transgressive behaviour of stalking. Unfortunately, this is not a very good idea, as alcohol also affects brain chemistry and is often followed by a hangover where endorphins are at an all-time low.
At Ellestedet, we specialize in all types of violence and are therefore qualified to help you move on from stalking. Call us today and let's have a no-obligation conversation about how we can help you move on. You deserve a safe and worry-free life, and we want to give you the tools to establish that again.
I fredags fejrede vi Karin`s fødselsdag. Vores alle sammes kære Karin.
Karin sørger for og hjælper dermed alle på krisecenteret med friske flotte buketter, der stimulerer til vores alles sanser.
Hun sikrer at alle værelser er omklædt i kærlighed, således at de står skinnende og lækre til når kvinderne flytter ind.
Har en kvinde brug for hjælp til at få noget nyt tøj, siger Karin straks ”det vil jeg gerne hjælpe med”
Karin har et varmt og kærligt hjerte for alle. Tak for dig, Karin
#Ellesetdet #kvindekrisecenterfyn #fødselsdag #kage #ellestedetkvindekrisecenter
Studiegruppe møde er aldrig kedeligt, især ikke når det handler om at være løsningsfokuseret.
En af studiegrupperne mødtes i formiddag på Cafe Niogtres @ni69tres til læsning og snak om at implementere den løsningsfokuserede tilgang i vores arbejde med kvinderne.
#ellestedetkvindekrisecenter #ellestedetetstedforkvinderogbørn #løsningsfokus
Fredagens undervisning med Natur og Eksistens @naturogeksistens , på Modul 3 af vores uddannelse, var med overskriften: Æstetik, symbolik og narrativer. Der var fokus på æstetikken som en vigtig del af vores erkendelsesgrundlag; på symbolikken som en hjælp til at udforske, begribe og kommunikere om det komplekse i livet; og på narrativet som en helt afgørende faktor for vores evne til at udvikle os. Som altid var der et fokus på genkendelighed i eget univers, for som professionel at kunne skabe en effektiv bro og indsats i arbejdet med beboerne på Ellestedet. Undervisningen veksler mellem de helt store eksistentialistiske perspektiver, viden på området, det direkte erfarede og sanselige, og så det professionelle perspektiv, hvilket netop er den røde tråd der gør det levende, interessant, relevant og brugbart. Vi glæder os til næste modul der omhandler cykliske processer i livet.
#ellestedetetstedforkvinderogbørn #ellestedetkvindekrisecenter #naturuddannelse
I et voldeligt forhold er det ikke kun de fysiske skader, der forårsager den mest langvarige smerte. Økonomisk vold er en skjult form for overgreb, der kan have dybtgående og ødelæggende konsekvenser for dem, der udsættes for det. Men hvad er økonomisk vold, hvordan manifesterer det sig, og hvordan kan Ellestedet hjælpe dig, hvis du er fanget i et mønster af økonomisk kontrol og manipulation? Læs mere på ellestedet.dk
#ellestedet #kvindekrisecenterfyn #voldmodkvinde #økonomiskvold
Vi elsker at læse vores bog med beskeder fra vores kvinder ❤
#EllesetdetKvindekrisecenter #støtkvinder #tak
Ellestedet has been to a very special event at Great Place To Work, an organization that helps companies create a great workplace culture with their innovative solutions, employee surveys and cultural analysis. Great Place To Work is a global organization that specializes in evaluating and recognizing workplace culture and employee experience.
Companies that achieve high marks in Great Place To Work assessments are often recognized and certified as "A Great Place To Work". This certification can help them attract and retain talented employees and improve their reputation in the industry.
On this special night, they announced the winner of Denmark's Best Workplace and we'd like to share the result with you!
We are very proud to announce that we have won #4 in the 20-49 employees category
#Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenter #greatplacetowork #DanmarksBedsteArbejdespladser #DanmarksBedsteArbejdespladsNo4
Two days of training with the fabulous Anne-Marie are over for now. Our heads are full of inspiration, knowledge and desire to work with women in a way that gives them full ownership of their own lives. We are not the experts to solve their problems in one fell swoop. We trust that they can do it themselves. We're more of a questioner: "If we pretend your problems were already solved, what would your life look like?" Dansk Løsningsfokuseret Institut / Danish SF Institute
#Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenter #inspiration #kvinder #liveftervold #danskløsningsfokuseretinstitut
Honor-related violence is a dark and complex issue that affects many communities globally. It is a type of violence that is deeply rooted in tradition, culture and social norms and particularly affects women and young girls.
Honor-related violence is a broad term that encompasses various forms of abuse and oppression carried out to protect a family's honor and uphold traditional societal norms. It includes:
Forced marriages
Social control in relationships and families
Re-education journeys
Emotional blackmail
Central to this form of violence is the concept of "honor," where the family's reputation is dependent on the behavior and conduct of family members.
#Ellestedet #women's shelter #honor related violence #honor related conflicts #honor related violence and control
"Ellestedet has meant everything to me. I have really gotten professional help. I have been protected. My stressed-out body has been given time and peace to calm down. I have been pampered with food and massage.
The staff are there for you night and day. I wish that those who are sitting at home in an abusive marriage dare to take the step to come here"
From a woman ❤️ ❤️
#Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenter #liveftervold #kvinder #kvindekrisecenterfyn
On Friday we start a new cycle in the world of nature existentialism, in collaboration with the company Nature & Existence. This is with the first of 5 modules in an education that is part of a larger project of the same name - A Natural Approach to Working with Vulnerable People. The project runs until the beginning of 2025. We look forward to revisiting and diving deeper into the themes, and to our new colleagues becoming part of this process. On Friday, we will dive into the senses and their importance for our well-being, experience of the world and development.
If you are curious about the program and the project, you are more than welcome to contact us.
#Ellestedet #women's crisis center #naturofexistence #women
Like all good families, the Ellested family has also eaten their fill and been happy this Easter.
#ellestedet #kvinderkrisecenter #påske2024 #kvindekrisecenterfyn
"You are pressured to not focus on yourself. You stop even existing. He controlled everything. Even which way to stir the cup."
This is what Anette said when she and her helper Rasmus stopped by Ellestedet the other day to talk about how she broke out of a mentally abusive marriage that lasted for over 50 years. Ellestedet has a special meaning for Anette because it was here that she "came to life". Here she learned to send an email, stir the cup in the way that suited her and, not least, she learned to have friends and people close to her again.
Anette comes to Ellestedet three more times during the spring and talks about her way out of psychological violence.
#Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenterfyn #violenceagainstwoman #psychicviolence
Today is International Women's Day, and of course we celebrate it at Ellestedet.
Karin has decorated with fresh flowers in the vases. Mick has baked banana cake and Erling has hoisted the flag.
Maj-Britt is here with her guitar, singing songs written by female artists. The music reminds us
how strong we are when we support each other. Happy fight day!
#Ellestedet #IWD2024 #InspireInclusion #women #women #women's fight day
Today is Women's Day, and of course we celebrate it at Ellestedet
in our own quiet way. The country singer Maj-Britt Nikolajsen from Funen will stop by with her guitar and warm voice to soften our hearts. The music reminds us how strong we are when we support and help each other in a difficult time.
#Ellestedet #IWD2024 #InspireInclusion #kvindekrisecenterfyn #støtkvinder
Are you a good hairdresser or do you know someone who is? We are looking for a volunteer hairdresser who will come once in a while and trim the locks of the women who stay with us for a longer period of time and who therefore need a little work on the outside to feel better on the inside. If this is you or someone you know, we would love to hear from you.
#Ellestedet #hairdresser #women's crisis center #volunteer #contact #kvinderkrisecenterfyn
Our graphic designer has been busy decorating the office corridor with reading material about the spiral of violence, the different forms of violence and what values Ellestedet stands for in our work to empower women to live a life without violence.
#Ellestedet #women's crisis center #livudenvold #women
We wave goodbye to another woman and say thank you
because we were the right place for her to hibernate.
Now she has been celebrated with cake and clapped out the door by us
and all the other women at Ellestedet. Much stronger and happier
than when she arrived.
#Ellestedet #Thank you #vitakkerdig #kvinderkrisecenterfyn
One of our residents paints beautiful pictures, which came to light at a small vernissage.
#fernisering #Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenter #kvinder
Last Friday, we went on a journey towards the sun in the heliotropic universe in Module 5 of the program, which is also part of the project of the same name: A natural approach to working with vulnerable people. This time, light was shed on how a positive and constructive ontology and habitus is the necessary driving force that makes it possible to work persistently, caringly and effectively in relational/social work, including with the knowledge and tools that have been in play in the previous modules. We gained insight into our thought streams, negativity bias and how to actively influence the brain to think more positively and constructively. All of this is crucial when working with other people, as well as for the work environment and, of course, your own well-being and development as an employee/person. It was intense, thought-provoking and relevant. We ended and left with the feeling of having opened up something very important, which now needs to be allowed to grow stronger and stronger.
We are now looking forward to 6 months of exploring the themes from the 5 modules and slowly integrating it into our work at Ellestedet, for the benefit of our residents.
Together with our partner Nature and Existence, we will continuously update from this process via SoMe, but if you are more curious about the program and the project it is part of, you are more than welcome to contact us.
#Ellestedet #Women's Crisis Center #krisecenterfyn #naturogeksistens
Around 13 children and their mothers had a great time today with a cat's cradle party.
#Ellestedet #fastelavn2024 #kvindekrisecenterfyn
Mental fitness and physical fitness. You can spend your time at Ellestedet doing a little bit of everything. If you want to.
#ellestedet #kvindekrisecenterfyn #pyskiskfysisk
What kind of life do you want?
At Ellestedet, we meet each woman with the belief that she has the resources to change the difficult life situation she is facing. She may need a little help to dig them out, but they are in there somewhere.
In our conversations, we focus on what she wants more of. What kind of life does she want? How can we help her see the solutions to her problems instead of dwelling on all the negative experiences from the past that no one can change anyway.
The woman is already changing her life for the better by going to the shelter. It is precisely this process that we try to support by identifying and reinforcing the moments in her life where she has actually felt competent. Maybe she was good at protecting her children from the violence. How did she get the strength to do that? Maybe she was actually able to get her children to school every morning despite the difficult circumstances. How did she manage to do that? If her self-esteem is at 2 out of 10, what is it that makes her actually at 2 and not 1?
By drawing parallels from the good experiences she has, where she has actually mastered something, to her current life situation, we can help her identify her competencies and strengths. The woman is the one who knows herself best, and therefore she often has the solution to many of her challenges.
Our theoretical foundation is the solution-focused approach, because we believe that this method is action- and future-oriented. The conversations inspire hope. It is a method that centers around the life people want rather than focusing solely on the bad things that have happened. This doesn't mean that we don't acknowledge the difficult, but we always look for what is present rather than what is missing.
#ellestedet #solutionfocus #kvindekrisecenter #kvindekrisecenterfyn
A space for laughter and play
Once a week, mothers and their children have the opportunity to participate in mother/child play with a trained educator. The aim is to create a space where mom forgets for a moment that she is in crisis. She may not be fully present in her daily life and therefore not fully present with her child. Perhaps she doesn't have as much energy to play and laugh as she would like. The child, on the other hand, has an unregulated nervous system, which is affected by the mother's condition and the experiences she has had. But the desire to play is still intact.
In this room, we try to create a loving space between mother and child that strengthens their relationship. We sing, fool around and play games that the children know. The mother laughs, smiles and sees her child, who loves that she has the time and desire to play and have fun. In this way, we try to create positive experiences between mother and child during a difficult time. Moments that are so important for the child's emotional development and for their connection with each other.
#ellestedet #women's crisis center #contact #children #krisecenterfyn
