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THE CHILDREN'S PERSPECTIVE
Violence has major consequences for children. The violence has often drawn attention away from the children and put a singular focus on the relationship between the adults. In many cases, children have not spoken to anyone about the violence they have experienced in their everyday lives. They may struggle to make sense of the violence they have witnessed or experienced first-hand, and imagination takes over where language and life experience leave a gap. That's why we are committed to listening and talking to children. We generally focus on how we can best support and empower children. When a woman with children applies for a stay at Ellested Women's Crisis Center, the children will therefore be in focus, and our services are organized so that both women and children receive relevant help, support and care.

Experience tells us that it is important that you as a parent invite your child to talk about the things they have seen and experienced. Some people think that the child will tell you. This may be the case, but often your child will not say anything directly to you as a parent. There can be a number of reasons for this, including fear of upsetting you, fear of the consequences, and finally, because they can easily feel like it's their fault!

AT THE SITE WE HAVE EMPLOYED A CHILD EDUCATOR

At Ellestedet, we have employed a child educator to specifically look after the children's interests.
The child educator works to give the children peace and security so that they have the opportunity to talk about their experiences and the loss of the people, things, etc. that they have lost.
It is allowed to talk about what the child is afraid of and talk about the insecurity of not knowing the future. It is important to maintain continuity in everyday life despite the difficult situation. At Ellestedet, we work to maintain relationships and attachment to school and daycare, as well as the security of meeting the same person at the shelter every day, which creates calm and energy in the children.

THE CHILD IS OFFERED THIS ON SITE

  • Contact person
  • Conversations
  • Psychologist
  • Support for maintaining relationships
  • Educational activities
  • External collaboration - e.g. contact with institutions, schools and other public services
  • Preparing the child for relocation

 

Mother/parents are offered:

  • Support for socializing and activities
  • Advice and guidance on the child
  • Mother/child conversations

PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELING FOR CHILDREN IN THE FIELD

As of July 1, 2008, psychological counseling is offered to children. Psychological counseling is therefore offered to all children at Ellestedet regardless of age.
Psychological counseling is provided in accordance with Section 109 (5) of the Danish Social Services Act, which states that all children, regardless of age, who accompany their mother to a shelter must be offered psychological counseling - to provide help in dealing with the often violent and traumatizing experiences the child has been exposed to,
Psychological counseling must be offered regardless of the duration of the stay and the offer must be initiated during the stay at Ellestedet or immediately afterwards.
The conversations are conducted by a licensed psychologist.
Optimally, the course is run with 1 weekly session, this is prioritized at the start of the course.
The children are offered 4-10 sessions. The mother attends the first session. After this, it is at the psychologist's discretion whether it is still appropriate for the mother to attend or whether the child should have sessions alone.

BACKPACK FOR CHILDREN IN THE FIELD

When children move into Ellestedet, they are given a backpack on behalf of the Mary Foundation.
The backpack contains various items for the child, e.g. a book, teddy bear and water bottle - depending on the child's gender and age.
The Mary Foundation works closely with the LEGO Foundation and LOKK (National Organization of Women's Shelters) on this project.
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Play therapy with sand helps children and young people with difficult emotions

Children and young people who have been exposed to or witnessed domestic violence may have traumas that they need help to process. At Ellestedet, we have a child psychologist who uses the therapeutic method 'sandplay' when working with children who have had difficult experiences. Sandplay is a free and creative process that can connect the unconscious with the conscious. The premise is that under the right circumstances, the psyche can heal itself.

What is Sandplay?

Sandplay is a therapeutic method based on the idea that the psyche is able to heal itself under certain conditions and frameworks. This makes it possible to process and deal with unresolved emotions and experiences. Sandplay unfolds as a free and creative process where we can connect the unconscious to the conscious. The method was developed in the 1950s by the Swiss Dora Kalff.

Sandplay takes place in a therapeutic room with two sandboxes and lots of small figures. The child/young person can choose whether he/she wants to work in wet or dry sand - or both.

Sandplay is particularly suitable for children because they are met on their
premises and in their universe - in the magic and in the play.

Children and young people often lack words for the feelings and the chaos that fills them up inside. Therefore, we must first and foremost meet the child on their own terms. Based on play and a magical universe, the therapist can help the child find an expression for what is difficult and chaotic inside.

Sandplay is particularly well-suited for working through crisis and trauma responses, as communication takes place via the child's/young person's inner language and at his/her own pace. Through Sandplay, the child/young person's resources and self-worth will be strengthened, and their view of themselves and their world will slowly change. The solutions arise in the adventures and stories the children/young people develop in the sandbox, in collaboration with the therapist.

Sandplay is a therapeutic space where two sandboxes with wet and dry sand and a lot of animals and figures form the framework for the therapy. In a gentle and considerate way, the therapist helps the child find words and solutions to difficult feelings through the adventures and stories that occur in the sandbox.

Many parents find that their child becomes calmer and happier after a sandplay session and better at expressing their feelings.

Example of a Sandplay course:

A start-up meeting is held with the parents without the child/young person, where we discuss the child/young person's resources and challenges, as well as the purpose of the program. The parents talk to their child/young person about starting Sandplay. It is very important that the young people are on board with the idea.

We agree whether the child/young person comes alone to Sandplay or whether the parents are in the room. We plan the Sandplay sessions, which usually take place once a week.

A Sandplay engagement usually lasts 4-6 weeks, depending on need.

DO YOU NEED HELP?

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We listen to you. Together we will find out if a stay with us is a good solution for you. We can give you advice and guidance on what you can do in your situation.

We can help you with legal assistance, help you clarify your employment, career or challenges at work. We can help you with visitation arrangements or anything else that may weigh heavily on your close relationships.
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