Welcome to the Ellestedet blog. Here you can read some of the women's stories and find good advice and answers to a lot of questions, women may have if they are victims of violence.
We are a temporary home. A women's crisis center for women and children who have experienced violence.
You can contact us - around the clock.
We listen to you. Together we will find out if a stay with us is a good solution for you. We can give you advice and guidance on what you can do in your situation.
We can help you with legal assistance, help you clarify your employment, career or challenges at work. We can help you with visitation arrangements or anything else that may weigh heavily on your close relationships.
I et voldeligt forhold er det ikke kun de fysiske skader, der forårsager den mest langvarige smerte. Økonomisk vold er en skjult form for overgreb, der kan have dybtgående og ødelæggende konsekvenser for dem, der udsættes for det. Men hvad er økonomisk vold, hvordan manifesterer det sig, og hvordan kan Ellestedet hjælpe dig, hvis du er fanget i et mønster af økonomisk kontrol og manipulation? Læs mere på ellestedet.dk
Ellestedet has been to a very special event at Great Place To Work, an organization that helps companies create a great workplace culture with their innovative solutions, employee surveys and cultural analysis. Great Place To Work is a global organization that specializes in evaluating and recognizing workplace culture and employee experience.
Companies that achieve high marks in Great Place To Work assessments are often recognized and certified as "A Great Place To Work". This certification can help them attract and retain talented employees and improve their reputation in the industry.
On this special night, they announced the winner of Denmark's Best Workplace and we'd like to share the result with you!
We are very proud to announce that we have won #4 in the 20-49 employees category #Ellestedet #kvindekrisecenter #greatplacetowork #DanmarksBedsteArbejdespladser #DanmarksBedsteArbejdespladsNo4
Two days of training with the fabulous Anne-Marie are over for now. Our heads are full of inspiration, knowledge and desire to work with women in a way that gives them full ownership of their own lives. We are not the experts to solve their problems in one fell swoop. We trust that they can do it themselves. We're more of a questioner: "If we pretend your problems were already solved, what would your life look like?" Dansk Løsningsfokuseret Institut / Danish SF Institute
Honor-related violence is a dark and complex issue that affects many communities globally. It is a type of violence that is deeply rooted in tradition, culture and social norms and particularly affects women and young girls.
Honor-related violence is a broad term that encompasses various forms of abuse and oppression carried out to protect a family's honor and uphold traditional societal norms. It includes:
Forced marriages Social control in relationships and families Re-education journeys Emotional blackmail
Central to this form of violence is the concept of "honor," where the family's reputation is dependent on the behavior and conduct of family members.
#Ellestedet #women's shelter #honor related violence #honor related conflicts #honor related violence and control
"Ellestedet has meant everything to me. I have really gotten professional help. I have been protected. My stressed-out body has been given time and peace to calm down. I have been pampered with food and massage.
The staff are there for you night and day. I wish that those who are sitting at home in an abusive marriage dare to take the step to come here"
On Friday we start a new cycle in the world of nature existentialism, in collaboration with the company Nature & Existence. This is with the first of 5 modules in an education that is part of a larger project of the same name - A Natural Approach to Working with Vulnerable People. The project runs until the beginning of 2025. We look forward to revisiting and diving deeper into the themes, and to our new colleagues becoming part of this process. On Friday, we will dive into the senses and their importance for our well-being, experience of the world and development. If you are curious about the program and the project, you are more than welcome to contact us.
#Ellestedet #women's crisis center #naturofexistence #women
"You are pressured to not focus on yourself. You stop even existing. He controlled everything. Even which way to stir the cup."
This is what Anette said when she and her helper Rasmus stopped by Ellestedet the other day to talk about how she broke out of a mentally abusive marriage that lasted for over 50 years. Ellestedet has a special meaning for Anette because it was here that she "came to life". Here she learned to send an email, stir the cup in the way that suited her and, not least, she learned to have friends and people close to her again.
Anette comes to Ellestedet three more times during the spring and talks about her way out of psychological violence.
Today is International Women's Day, and of course we celebrate it at Ellestedet. Karin has decorated with fresh flowers in the vases. Mick has baked banana cake and Erling has hoisted the flag. Maj-Britt is here with her guitar, singing songs written by female artists. The music reminds us how strong we are when we support each other. Happy fight day!
#Ellestedet #IWD2024 #InspireInclusion #women #women #women's fight day
Today is Women's Day, and of course we celebrate it at Ellestedet in our own quiet way. The country singer Maj-Britt Nikolajsen from Funen will stop by with her guitar and warm voice to soften our hearts. The music reminds us how strong we are when we support and help each other in a difficult time.
Are you a good hairdresser or do you know someone who is? We are looking for a volunteer hairdresser who will come once in a while and trim the locks of the women who stay with us for a longer period of time and who therefore need a little work on the outside to feel better on the inside. If this is you or someone you know, we would love to hear from you.
#Ellestedet #hairdresser #women's crisis center #volunteer #contact #kvinderkrisecenterfyn
Our graphic designer has been busy decorating the office corridor with reading material about the spiral of violence, the different forms of violence and what values Ellestedet stands for in our work to empower women to live a life without violence.
#Ellestedet #women's crisis center #livudenvold #women
We wave goodbye to another woman and say thank you because we were the right place for her to hibernate. Now she has been celebrated with cake and clapped out the door by us and all the other women at Ellestedet. Much stronger and happier than when she arrived.
#Ellestedet #Thank you #vitakkerdig #kvinderkrisecenterfyn
Last Friday, we went on a journey towards the sun in the heliotropic universe in Module 5 of the program, which is also part of the project of the same name: A natural approach to working with vulnerable people. This time, light was shed on how a positive and constructive ontology and habitus is the necessary driving force that makes it possible to work persistently, caringly and effectively in relational/social work, including with the knowledge and tools that have been in play in the previous modules. We gained insight into our thought streams, negativity bias and how to actively influence the brain to think more positively and constructively. All of this is crucial when working with other people, as well as for the work environment and, of course, your own well-being and development as an employee/person. It was intense, thought-provoking and relevant. We ended and left with the feeling of having opened up something very important, which now needs to be allowed to grow stronger and stronger. We are now looking forward to 6 months of exploring the themes from the 5 modules and slowly integrating it into our work at Ellestedet, for the benefit of our residents. Together with our partner Nature and Existence, we will continuously update from this process via SoMe, but if you are more curious about the program and the project it is part of, you are more than welcome to contact us.
#Ellestedet #Women's Crisis Center #krisecenterfyn #naturogeksistens
At Ellestedet, we meet each woman with the belief that she has the resources to change the difficult life situation she is facing. She may need a little help to dig them out, but they are in there somewhere. In our conversations, we focus on what she wants more of. What kind of life does she want? How can we help her see the solutions to her problems instead of dwelling on all the negative experiences from the past that no one can change anyway. The woman is already changing her life for the better by going to the shelter. It is precisely this process that we try to support by identifying and reinforcing the moments in her life where she has actually felt competent. Maybe she was good at protecting her children from the violence. How did she get the strength to do that? Maybe she was actually able to get her children to school every morning despite the difficult circumstances. How did she manage to do that? If her self-esteem is at 2 out of 10, what is it that makes her actually at 2 and not 1? By drawing parallels from the good experiences she has, where she has actually mastered something, to her current life situation, we can help her identify her competencies and strengths. The woman is the one who knows herself best, and therefore she often has the solution to many of her challenges. Our theoretical foundation is the solution-focused approach, because we believe that this method is action- and future-oriented. The conversations inspire hope. It is a method that centers around the life people want rather than focusing solely on the bad things that have happened. This doesn't mean that we don't acknowledge the difficult, but we always look for what is present rather than what is missing.
Once a week, mothers and their children have the opportunity to participate in mother/child play with a trained educator. The aim is to create a space where mom forgets for a moment that she is in crisis. She may not be fully present in her daily life and therefore not fully present with her child. Perhaps she doesn't have as much energy to play and laugh as she would like. The child, on the other hand, has an unregulated nervous system, which is affected by the mother's condition and the experiences she has had. But the desire to play is still intact.
In this room, we try to create a loving space between mother and child that strengthens their relationship. We sing, fool around and play games that the children know. The mother laughs, smiles and sees her child, who loves that she has the time and desire to play and have fun. In this way, we try to create positive experiences between mother and child during a difficult time. Moments that are so important for the child's emotional development and for their connection with each other.
#ellestedet #women's crisis center #contact #children #krisecenterfyn
"Thank you is a poor word. I am so glad that we came here with you. Both [ ... ] and I have really felt at home and not least appreciated ALL the help, presence, care that we met here with you. You have made an incredibly hard and beautiful difficult time, more secure in your beautiful house, your lovely staff has been ready to listen and provided care and good advice. I would like to say a big thank you to [ . . . ] for all the help she has done for me and [ . . . ].
[ . . . ] 1000thank you for making this wonderful place, of course with the help of others as well. But that we had the opportunity to come here, I am eternally grateful for. You are/were the light in our journey, and you will always be remembered as something positive.
You have been fantastic here on the site and we think it is very sad to leave you. Maybe we'll see you again, maybe in the future we could drop by for a cup of water or something else. Who knows. Thanks to the residents for the fun and laughter. But mostly just THANK YOU for helping and being here for us (mostly [ . . . ]) We'll be in touch, and make sure to take care of yourselves, each other and the beautiful quiet place. Well, except when [ . . . ] knew she was here."
Module 4 of our program - "A natural approach to working with vulnerable people" from the company Nature and Existence - was titled: Cyclical Wisdom. The day's teaching and assignments centered around the universal cyclical patterns, as well as causal chains illustrated by a model called The Web of Life. Here the common thread throughout the program was very clear, and how the different tools are parts of a coherent life view that is rooted in concrete experiences that we all have. This makes the themes of the training relevant, recognizable, viable and useful. We are excited to use these views, insights and tools in our work with the residents at Ellestedet, so that we can continue to do our best to help them on their way in life. We are now looking forward to the 5th module entitled: Heliotropic Mindset.
#Ellestedet #women's crisis center #naturogexistence
It's almost impossible not to take two servings of Mick's food! Today we had spaghetti with Italian meatballs in tomato sauce. It tasted so wonderful.
Mick scores 5 out of 5 stars in the evaluations that the women fill out when they leave Ellestedet. The kids love him from the first moment they see him. He jokes and makes them laugh. Maybe they can also feel the responsibility he takes on. Fortunately, Mick is also fond of the rest of us here at Ellestedet (we don't want to get rid of him). He appreciates having freedom with responsibility. Having time for his family alongside his job. And to be in a place where he is appreciated for who he is and the care he gives us all every day through his amazing food.